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Updated: May 22

' The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.' -- Osho


It’s Week 5 of the circuit breaker. It’s Mother’s day. It’s been difficult staying home with a toddler and a 8-month old. It’s tough juggling chores, work, infant and toddler needs while staying home (I’m not even working full time right now, my heart goes out to the full time working Mums at this period). I couldn’t wait to go back to normalcy, get back some of the peace and slow breathing without my toddler. I can’t wait for my 8-month old and toddler to continue exploring the world, challenging their senses as they learn about their world. Don’t get me wrong. I adore my kids, but I need respite.


Work has been unproductive, inspiration low. Energy in the day is mostly spent on ‘dealing’ with my toddler, until I learnt to support her needs. Motherhood is not instinctive, it’s learnt. I feel bad leaving my work behind as I run through the daily grinds. But I feel bad feeling bad about not doing work, because I was ‘supposed’ to enjoy being a mother!


As the weeks pass, I would feel like I'm stuck in a cycle of frustration, helplessness and impatience. And then i get angry, and I feel like I have no resources left to get by the day with my kids. I found this article very timely and helpful, as it just describes ME!! Thank you Janet Lansbury..

https://www.janetlansbury.com/2017/12/stuck-pattern-frustration-impatience-anger/



Some days are really tough.

I don’t want to change another diaper, read another story, sing another song, dance another dance.

Some days I wished my mum was here to cook up some meals so that I don’t have to deal with kitchen and kids.

Some days I miss having some time to read. Many times, I feel my will-power running low, only to tap on motivation from mother-friends and encouragement from my siblings and mummy.

Sometimes I miss my husband too.

Some moments I feel really tickled by my toddler, in awe of the immense change of her perception, sense of humour and presence in the house.

Some moments my baby boy whines to get my attention, and it melts my heart -- only if I was being at peace with wholeheartedly being present with my kids.



I am forced to stay home and observe my kids grow, create opportunities for her and her new brother to play, communicate and interact. I am given a chance to feel what motherhood feels like, in full force. I am privileged to have breakfast with 2 kids while my husband hustles for endless work, serving the nation to make COVID-19 easier to deal with. What a powerful effect of staying home with my family. ‘How tough can that be?’ I thought to myself at the start, until I learnt about "Cabin Fever'.


Before I know it, circuit breaker is going to end. We are all going to return to the pace we used to, seeing each other much less than 2 hours a day before bedtime comes. Circuit Breaker (CB) has been kind to us, keeping us safe, and giving us the rare opportunity to live and grow as a family. I have learnt 1 thing: If it is tough for me, it must have been tough for my toddler, baby (okay, maybe not so much the baby) and husband, too. Live in the moment, embrace the challenges, seek out to look for ‘teachable moments’ for myself and my kids. There will never be another time like this (hopefully not another pandemic), and I will keep the best and worst moments in pictures and in emotions. I already miss the Circuit Breaker, it will be a significant event in history that has occurred across the globe, and deeply in our hearts as well. Perhaps the world needs to go through an evolution with Covid-19, where empathy, cohesion, deep relationships and humanity are restored again.



3 more weeks to go, treasure every moment and emotion before the hustle begins again! To all mummies, the days don’t get easier, we get stronger. We are getting through a pandemic, one we will never forget. Stay safe, seek help when you need, wash hands and keep moving!



Love, Mummy Physio

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As much as C-section is a normalized surgery in mothers, it is, after all, an abdominal surgery. You might have undergone a C-section delivery by choice or taken by surprise when you required an emergency C-section. When the epidural wears off and the recovering pains start, moving out of bed can be a daunting task. Knowing how to take care of your wound and how to reduce pain more quickly can make all the difference to how you start your journey into motherhood.

1. Give it lots of support Immediately after delivery, it is normal that the skin around the wound becomes very sensitive. This is the body’s natural way of protecting itself, by making sure you are aware of the "injury" so you will rest and protect it. Because of this increased sensitivity, even slight movement of the wound can cause great discomfort. A quick way to reduce wound discomfort is to use a folded towel or a small cushion to gently hold your wound up and in towards your belly button. Doing this for the first few days when you need to move and especially when you sneeze, and cough can be very helpful. After your bandages are removed, wearing supportive underwear/shorts will be comfortable. A soft abdominal binder can help to provide much needed support for you to take care of baby and yourself with greater ease. 2. Roll to get out of bed Getting in and out of bed after a C-section is most dreaded by mums. To make your life better, try this sequence: ⁃ Roll fully to your side ⁃ Lower your legs ⁃ Push yourself up on your elbows to sit up

We found a good video here:


This method reduces the amount of effort from your tummy to get out of bed. This means less pain and less stress on the wound! Simply reverse the movement for a more comfortable way of getting back into bed. 3. Touch it – yes, touch it! If you’re feeling a little nervous about touching your wound, you are not alone! Gently stroking over the bandages in the first few days can reduce the sensitivity of the skin around the area. It also reassures you that there isn’t a gaping wound on your belly. This helps your body and mind to relax, activating the pain blocking abilities of the brain so you feel less pain later. This powerful ability of the brain is known as down regulation of pain. When all the scabs over the wound have fallen off, you can gently massage the scar. Place clean fingertips (not the nails!) directly over the scar, gently roll your finger tips up and down perpendicular to the direction of the scar along its entire length. This helps the healing layers to glide nicely over one another to reduce tightness that can make it uncomfortable to move. 4. Adopt good posture and move! The wound can feel quite tight and painful in the first few days after a c-section. This makes most ladies want to walk around hunched. The fear that the wound may split open is real. But try to remind yourself that your Doctor stitched you up while you were lying flat, this means that standing straight will not add additional tension to the wound. Phew! It is important that you keep trying to stand up straight from the beginning so that wound will not feel so tight when you eventually straighten up. Having good posture also prevent aches and pains in your neck and lower back. We hope you’ll have a smoother start to Motherhood with your birth experience. Help spread the word to help Mums learn how to care for herself after a Cesarean Section surgery! Dads, also be empowered with this knowledge to support your wives, and be involved in the early days of parenting, together.


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Antenatal classes are excellent in preparing for motherhood. In my 10 sessions with KKH, I learnt theory and practical knowledge on breastfeeding, labour, exercise and baby care. The topic on how to take care of your vaginal wound and dealing with perineum pain after delivery was however, not covered.


Hence, I have written 4 tips here to help your body recover and feel less pain sooner.


1. Rinse after you use the toilet

Ok, so even though toilet paper is super convenient, rinsing after you use the toilet and patting the area dry gently after each visit to the toilet helps to keep the wound clean. This prevents nasty infections that can delay the body’s natural healing. Infections also increase pain and swelling. As the womb heals, it sheds its inner lining resulting in the bloody vagina discharge after delivery. This discharge is known as Lochia. Bacteria grows well in Lochia. Rinsing after each toilet visit and changing your pad every 4-6 hourly in the day will keep the wound infection free.


2. Have a look down there

Using a small mirror or the mirror function on your smartphone will allow you to visually inspect your wound. This may seem scary at first, at least I was also scared to look initially! But looking helps you to know if you’ve cleaned the area well. Looking also helps you to appreciate how quickly your body can heal. Knowing that the wound is healing well is reassuring. Being assured relaxes your brain and mind. Such relaxation will activate your body’s pain blocking abilities, reducing your discomfort. Scientifically this is “down regulation”.


3. Keep the muscles around the vagina active, to reduce pressure and swelling

Gentle pelvic floor muscle movements (Kegels) help to reduce swelling in the perineum. This reduces the discomfort that comes when you sit down or stand up. Introduce a 1-2-minute kegels exercise a few times a day will help to reduce localised swelling.


4. Change Positions Frequently

Alternate your resting position frequently in the day to reduce pain and swelling. If you need to sit to feed your baby, shift your weight onto the side that you are feeding on. Resting your elbow on the armrest helps in reducing pressure on the perineum. Taking care of a baby is a 24/7 job. Do take at least 5-10 minute bedrest 2-3 times in the daytime. A comfortable position to try is to lie on your side with a pillow between your knees. In this position you can also perform some gentle Kegels!


Let us know on our facebook page if you found these tips helpful. If you need a bit more help, Pelvic Health Physiotherapists, who are trained to work with women will be able to teach you how to move your pelvic floor effectively. We hope you will return to pain free movement early. Do share these tips with new Mums and Dads. :)


#antenatal #postnatal #prenatal #pregnancy #motherhood #perineumpain

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